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You're engaged - next steps

Paula McGarry

The moment you become engaged a hundred different emotions and thoughts rush through your mind. Your wedding will be one of the most significant events in your life, and this fact alone can be overwhelming. Before you start working on the planning and details, we have some practical considerations that are useful to every couple after the moment you said 'yes.' 

1. Spread the good news in the right way

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Images from via Piinterest and Beau Coup

Although your engagement is personal to you, your family and close friends will want to share in the happiness with you. We recommend phoning your parents and close family first, followed by your inner circle of friends and finishing the announcement off with a social media post that will reach everyone else. 

The moment you tell other people you are engaged, you can expect to welcome questions about how it happened, when the wedding will be and what vibe you are opting to have on the day. For that reason, it might even make sense to contain some of the excitement and wait a couple of days before sharing your news with the masses so that you can enjoy your engagement as a couple without frequent phone notifications. 

2. Have your engagement ring insured

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Every bride-to-be will treasure their engagement ring, but many women forget to protect it adequately. Speak to the company that provides your contents insurance and ask that they add the ring to your policy. It is worth confirming their conditions around loss or theft outside of the property too so you know they will cover you in all situations. 

You can also find jewellery specific insurance policies that might be better. If you opt to take out one of these options, ensure they will compensate you for loss, theft and damage caused by you or a third party jeweller. To further safety proof your beloved jewel, make sure that you have it valued by an appraiser with the appropriate credentials so your insurance company can not overrule the worth you have placed on it. 

3. Get your engagement ring sized

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Your fiancee has put a lot of thought into your engagement ring, and there are plenty of things they would have considered before making a purchase. If they have caught you by surprise, there may be a chance the ring, however beautiful, doesn't fit perfectly. 

Take it to an expert re-sizing jeweller and have them size it correctly for you. Doing this will make sure this treasured possession stays where it should without causing discomfort or sliding off accidentally. Be mindful that this process can be quite tricky and it is essential to choose a jeweller based on their skill rather than their price. Engagement rings that are unusually thin, thick or contain delicate gems can be particularly sensitive to re-sizing, making the jeweller you choose an ever-important decision. 

Always make sure the jeweller has insurance to cover any damage they might inadvertently cause to your ring, especially if you do not have any yourself. It doesn't hurt to be fully prepared.  

4. Agree on a guest list size

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The size of your wedding is a choice that can be determined by many different factors. You might feel pressured to invite everyone you work with, speak to and socialise with. Brides and grooms with large families often have the internal battle over who they ask and who they don't which can cause a lot of stress. 

By agreeing on a wedding size early-on, you will be able to be more honest about your guest-list and explain from the start who will and will not be invited. Doing this early on and will also prevent you from over-inviting only to find that your guest-list is pushing you so over budget that you have to compromise on other details. 

If opting for a small wedding and you and your partner are finding it difficult to cut down the guest list, think about who you will be friends with in 20 years time. Who will still be in your life?

5. Booking appointments to see venues

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Now for the fun part. You might have been thinking about your wedding for a while, or you might have been to a few weddings and have a distinct idea of what you would like for your own. Either way, exploring different venues soon after your engagement is a good idea as many get booked up many months and years in advance. Try to co-ordinate seeing a few back to back so you can nail the visits in a day or two.

Have a list of questions ready for the venue. This will save lots of emails and phone calls back and forth. A face-to-face meeting can be really efficient. Don't forget this may be your only visit to the venue before you get married, so take some pictures (if you're allowed) and bring a note pad so you can jot down some ideas on decor and what you're working with. 

6. Send your save the date cards

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After you have booked a venue and a date, start rallying your guests by sending out a 'save the date' card. Doing this will prevent anyone making plans that would accidentally clash with your big day. Set the tone for your day with some of our beautiful designs and secure that date with your family and friends. You can browse through our save the date cards here

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New Year’s Resolutions for the Bride and Groom To Be

Paula McGarry

As we face the end of one year and the beginning of a new one, most of us look towards how we can make the best start in 2018 and begin afresh. For budding brides and grooms to be this is the perfect time to put some plans in place for the year ahead as you look forward to your big day. Here's some useful tips and guidance to help you...

Get Organised

There's a long list of tasks to do and dates to do them by. Sit down with your partner, write it all down and be realistic about who is doing what and what bits you can outsource to the wedding party. Set up a dropbox or google drive file which you can both easily access for your spreadsheets and lists. Be realistic about your budget and which months you can pay for which items. Use Pinterest, Instagram and popular wedding blogs like Rock my Wedding and Festival Brides to make a list of your favourite suppliers. Don't forget to cross things off the list so you can see some progress.

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Images via Rock My Wedding and Pinterest

Exercise Routine

Whether this is continuing with a form of exercise you already enjoy, or making the effort to start something new, exercising regularly will ensure you are in great shape for your wedding day. We get reminded regularly of both the physically and mental benefits. Commit to a time in your week to help you stay focused and to keep it up. If you're finding it difficult to fit it in with your schedule how about getting off the train one station stop early on your route to work and walk the extra distance or try some stretching at your desk or in the local park at lunch time to save time. Try gentle and cardio exercises like yoga and running or walking and dancing. A combination of both will help with toning and fitness levels. Above all, exercise will give you more energy to get those tasks on your wedding list completed. 

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Time Out

Planning a wedding can be stressful and there can be moments where you feel overwhelmed, after all you're trying to fit it in with all your other life routines and tasks. It’s important to remember to take time out. Whenever you find yourself getting worked up, take a moment to yourself to remember positive things about getting married and how much you are going to enjoy the day. Treat yourself to some rejuvenation time in your local steam and sauna rooms. When was the last time you got in the bath? How about getting up out of bed 10 minutes earlier and practice some meditation or go for walk without your phone at an unusual time.

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Lighten the Load

We can all use our trusted bridesmaids and groomsmen to help and they love helping! Why not use them for things like making a list of florists, sourcing some confetti suppliers or finding a suit hire shop. There is lots the wedding party can get involved with. Don't forget they're not just there for helping you on the day. 

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Winter Wedding Inspiration

Paula McGarry

The perfect, romantic wedding day is what all brides dream of, and what could be more romantic than the enchanting setting of a winter wonderland wedding? Cold it may be, but there is a certain magic in the air that pervades the setting of a winter wedding.  Allow your imagination to roam free and the options are endless for you to make this day truly special.

Flowers

A winter wedding is all about the perfect shades of white. Combine snowdrops and gypsophila with icy hued ranunculus and minty sprigs of greenery for a beautifully frosty finish to your bouquet. Your florist can match cool coloured ribbons to your chosen blooms and combine with creamy pearls or glittering crystals for the perfect icy effect that can be as glamorously opulent, or elegantly understated as you desire. For a gloriously boho effect, wrap the stems of your bouquet in hessian fabric and trailing, velvety ribbons.

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Accessories

You’ll need to wrap up on the day, so take the opportunity to accessorise your bridesmaid dresses with cute fur shawls, or fluffy pashminas. Not only will you keep your leading ladies toasty warm, but you can have fun picking the perfect colour for them that fits in with your theme.  For very cold settings go one step further and provide cosy blankets for your guests to wrap up in.

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Drinks

Embrace your winter theme and offer your guests a boozy (or virgin) hot chocolate on arrival. Choose your favourite creamy, liquor and combine with luscious chocolate topped with their choice of marshmallows, cream, sprinkles and whatever else you can feasibly fit into a hot chocolate mug! You can make this really fun for your guests (and yourself whilst choosing) by giving them a variety of options to choose from and create their own, delicious drink. Just make sure to keep it away from any white dresses!

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Decorations

Glitter, glitter and more glitter! Sprinkle it on your tables, combine it with your confetti and even incorporate it subtly into your bridal makeup on the day. A subtle coating of glitter will add a frosty finish to anything you like so get it on your place cards, your favours and even your flowers. For weddings that are especially close to Christmas, why not decorate your venue with Christmas trees decorated in your wedding colours. You can choose baubles that perfectly complement your colour palette and even ask your guests to bring a personalised decoration that will help you commemorate the day forever.

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Special Touches

Add some sparkle to your evening party by handing sparklers out to all your guests. Not only will this make for some fantastic wedding pictures, but it’s guaranteed to put a smile on every face. For lighting on the evening, make sure you invest in some twinkling fairy lights that will transform your venue into a magical, winter grotto, and place candles on all your tables and around the area you will be in. A combination of different sized candles, in your chosen wedding scent will help to create an air of rustic romance.

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